#10: Absence Makes the Fart Grow Fonder
When validation wanes, partners can feel hurt and rejected. They depended so thoroughly on their partner's affirmation for the their self-esteem and identity, they feel lost. They resent their partner's unwillingness to keep on making them feel special.
How to sabotage** a marriage in three easy steps:
** using popular, but crummy, relationship advice
Step 3 (Validate!)
Step 2 (Sex! More Sex!) --> here
Step 1 (Compromise) --> here
From the book: LEARNING TO COMMIT (Fall, 2015, Self Counsel Press)