Stop Working On Your Marriage

What is a marriage?  A marriage is two separate selves trying to figure out a way to connect with each other.  It’s the selves that are having difficulty connecting, not the marriage. I always say to people that if you can figure yourself out and be grounded in yourself, your relationships will be fine; the marriage will take care of itself.

- Taken from the upcoming book Where Would You Like to Start: A master therapist on beginning psychotherapy with families by Dr. David Freeman and Avrum Nadigel